23 October 2019
The weather is much cooler today and I can hear the birds singing their songs in the garden. As I sit typing this message, I am grateful that I am not dripping sweat as I have been every day in the last few weeks. I am about to leave to walk my dog in the park. This is a standing arrangement and one that is precious to me. It marks the middle of the week and a time when I can catch up with some friends while walking the stiffness out of my muscles. My dog is beautiful, boisterous and revels in playing in the park, and I love him to bits. He has a unique personality born from adversity.
You see, he was rescued from a terrible situation. However, the lack of senior dog influence in his formative months has made him develop traits that will be a part of his personality forever. This is why I walk him every week with the behaviourist. He deserves to get out and about but I am too nervous to take him to the park on my own as his behaviour is unpredictable. Even getting visitors at home is a bit of a trial. I would rather put him in a section of the garden, away from all the activity and heightened emotions that we all give off when the strangers arrive than have him bite someone because he cannot temper his trigger emotions.
This in a roundabout way brings me to the topic of this post – rising from adversity. Whether we acknowledge it or not, we have all experienced hardship, danger or extreme situations in our lives. It is the acknowledgement and stepping away from the memories that is on my mind today. How can we grow as people if we don’t do this? Harbouring resentment just makes one an angry person and I realise that I have been angry for years because of situations from my past. But that is what they are – the past and I am living now, so how am I going to keep them in the past and not live the anger today? I don’t have a behaviourist to help modify my behaviour every day, so I have to do it myself.
This is another reason why discipline is so important. Every time a memory is triggered bringing up that anger, I need to acknowledge that situation and remind myself that the emotion of the event is in the past and my choice is to live now. That happened then and I may carry the scars and it certainly shaped the person I am now, but it is my choice to not let the feelings left over from then continue to shape me now. So here I am, instilling discipline in my life by writing a post a day
It is incredible how our brains mash up events and emotions. For authors, it takes extreme discipline not to let a critic put them in a tailspin for weeks. Again, it is a choice. That criticism triggers emotions from an event in the past and it all gets smooshed up in our heads and hearts. Look at this situation now, acknowledge your emotions, see if there is anything positive you can take from it and then let it go. There are billions of people who will love your stories and unless there is something to help you make your story better technically, then it is simply one person’s opinion and it is your choice to understand that and to let it go. This requires discipline on your part and we need to train our brains to work in this way. All training takes discipline, so join me on my journey to having more discipline, one day at a time.
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